Motivation: Winning The Battle In Your Head

Motivation is a funny, complex thing. The thing that motivates one person is always different from that of another even though they are working for the same thing. And while people can motivate other people, they can only do so to a certain degree. At the end of the day, you still have to work out a way to get yourself moving. But when everything looks bleak and all you want to do is to surrender, from where do you muster the will to go on?

Begin with winning the battle in your head.

The battle always starts in the head. One part of your brain tells you to move, work, and strive for what you are working for. The other part tells you that it is foolish. It is always easier to listen to the latter, because it is more convenient, less taxing, and easier to do. The former forces you to act and work. All things equal, people always choose the less inconvenient, easy way out. But this isn’t always the better choice. In fact, it is never a good choice.

What separates very effective people from those who are not is their ability to always make the right choices most of the time, even if these choices are the hardest to make. They know how the game works and they try to beat it every single time. Exhausting, yes, but it is also gratifying. There is always a sense of satisfaction in defeating your worst enemy – yourself.

But how do you win the battle that goes on inside your head?

Understand your thoughts and how they affect your emotions and your will power. Negative thoughts can easily kill your sense of purpose. It comes in many forms – lack of self-confidence, general negativity, lack of belief in others, procrastination and the list goes on. Each of these has the power to convince you to throw in the towel and accept that you can’t carry on. Identifying each of your negative thoughts is the first step to winning yourself back from a defeatist attitude.

It is not simple feat, though. It takes time before one can shut out the voice in the head that says ‘give up, give in’. And sometimes, even when you have already succeeded in neutralizing your negative thoughts, it is still easy to give up at the first sign of a speed bump. After all, it gives you time to rest from the unending struggle to achieve whatever it is you are pursuing, even for just a moment. But don’t buy that. That short period of rest can turn to days, weeks, months, years, ultimately paralyzing you from taking action and living a full life. That’s the characteristic of discouragement. It offers you immediate gratification without securing anything in return.

Try to gain positive momentum every time, instead of succumbing back into a demoralized attitude. Every time, even if that means you have to start the battle in your head all over again.

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5 Ways To Improve Your Quality Of Life When Dealing With Chronic Illness

Chronic illnesses include things like heart disease, cancer, diabetes, arthritis and fibromyalgia . They can affect every aspect of your life and can increase your stress levels. Unfortunately, when your stress levels go up, this has a negative feedback on your chronic illness so that you can actually make your chronic illness worse.

Dealing with your Illness

Dealing with chronic illness can be extremely taxing and aggravating. What with doctor’s appointments, medications, and limitations on your daily activities, many people with chronic illness suffer from depression and chronic pain. Fortunately, there are things you can do that can help you cope with your illness:

  1. Decrease stress. Unless you are bedridden or otherwise incapacitated, you can better cope with your chronic illness by decreasing stress. This can involve meditation exercises or physical exercise. Just because you have a chronic illness doesn’’t mean you have to limit your physical activities. While some activities will be prohibitive with certain chronic illnesses, there are gentle exercises you can do that will decrease stress and decrease your perception of pain. Think about doing tai chi, yoga, or qi gong, which are all exercise forms that also decrease stress. If you are bedridden, try de-stressing with things like meditation, which decreases stress and improves your quality of life.

  2. Eat a healthy diet. A body with a chronic illness needs all the nutrition it can get. Fighting a chronic illness requires getting adequate nutrients so that you can function at your best. This means focusing on eating a healthy diet, rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean meats or other lean sources of protein.


    When you eat a healthy diet, you improve your body’s chances of being able to fight off chronic disease and provide your body with nutrients that help the cells of your body function at peak efficiency (This secret tip will help balance your system).


    Avoid processed foods and junk foods as these often contain preservatives and trans fats that will not enhance your immune system and will not provide your body with the nutrients it needs.

  3. Get outside help. Many people with chronic illnesses feel as though they have to cope with their illness on their own. They don’t realize that there are many other people dealing with the same chronic illness and the same stressors as they are.


    Fortunately, many hospitals and HMOs offer support groups for those suffering from various types of chronic diseases. There are support groups for people with arthritis, support groups for cancer patients, and support groups for diabetics, among others. By talking with others who are basically dealing with the same things you are, you can get practical information on how to cope with your disease and can get the emotional support you need to better function in your daily life. Most support groups are free or are offered at a low cost so just about anyone can join and receive benefits from doing so.

  4. See a psychotherapist. Psychotherapists deal with people suffering from chronic disease all the time. Through cognitive behavioral therapy and other psychological therapies, you can learn coping strategies that will carry forth in your daily life. Many insurance companies recognize that people with chronic illnesses need psychological support and will pay for you to see a psychotherapist to help you overcome the stressors of having a chronic illness.

  5. Use a safe exercise program. You don’t have to be a star athlete to engage in aerobic exercise. People with chronic illnesses can benefit from a regular exercise program that can be as simple as walking, swimming, or cycling. Exercise releases endogenous endorphins in your brain, which provide you with a sense of wellbeing and can decrease the stressors of the day-to-day coping with chronic disease.

The goal to effectively cope with your chronic illness so that you don’t stress yourself out and can live your life to the fullest.